Knowing what to say is the hardest part of asking for a raise. These scripts give you the exact words for every situation.
Requesting the Meeting
Email Template: Scheduling the Conversation
Subject: Request for Compensation Discussion
Hi [Manager’s name],
I would like to schedule some time to discuss my compensation and the value I am contributing to the team. I have been reflecting on my accomplishments and would appreciate the opportunity for a focused conversation.
Would [date] or [date] work for a 30-minute meeting? I am happy to work around your schedule.
Thank you, [Your name]
What to Say If Asked What It Is About
“I have been thinking about my compensation relative to my contributions and the current market. I would like to have a thoughtful discussion about it rather than catching you off guard.”
Opening the Conversation
Standard Opening
“Thank you for taking this meeting. I have been with [company] for [time], and I want to discuss my compensation. Over the past [period], I have taken on more responsibility and delivered strong results. I believe my salary should reflect that growth, and I would like to talk about an adjustment.”
After Strong Performance
“I appreciate the feedback I received in my recent review about [positive comments]. Given those results and the additional responsibilities I have taken on, I would like to discuss adjusting my compensation to better reflect my contributions.”
After Completing a Major Project
“Now that [project] has launched successfully, I wanted to circle back on compensation. That project [achieved X result], and I believe it demonstrates the value I bring. I would like to discuss a salary increase that reflects this level of contribution.”
Presenting Your Case
The Value Statement
“Over the past [timeframe], I have:
- [Accomplishment 1 with specific metrics]
- [Accomplishment 2 with specific outcome]
- [Accomplishment 3 showing expanded scope]
Additionally, I have researched the market rate for my role and experience level, which is [range]. Given my track record and the value I provide, I am requesting an increase to [specific number].”
The Data-Driven Pitch
“I have put together some data to support this conversation. [Specific accomplishment] resulted in [measurable outcome]. My research shows that the market rate for someone in this role with my experience is between [X] and [Y]. Based on that, I am asking for [specific number], which I believe reflects both my value here and the current market.”
The Growth Story
“When I started in this role, I was responsible for [original scope]. Today, I am managing [expanded scope], which includes [new responsibility], [new responsibility], and [new function]. My output has grown significantly, and I would like my compensation to grow with it. I am requesting an increase to [specific number].”
Handling Common Responses
Response: “We do not have the budget right now”
Script 1: Finding Flexibility
“I understand budget constraints are real. Is there any flexibility in the timeline? Could we plan for this in the next quarter or when the new budget cycle begins? I would like to put something on the calendar so we can revisit this.”
Script 2: Exploring Alternatives
“If the budget is fixed for salary, are there other forms of compensation we could discuss? I am open to exploring options like a one-time bonus, additional PTO, or professional development budget.”
Script 3: Getting Specific
“Can you help me understand what would need to change for this to be possible? I want to make sure I am positioned for an increase when it becomes feasible.”
Response: “You are already at the top of your band”
Script 1: Promotion Path
“I appreciate you sharing that. Given my contributions, it sounds like I may have outgrown my current level. Can we discuss what a promotion would look like, and the timeline to make that happen?”
Script 2: Restructuring
“If I am at the top of this band, that suggests my responsibilities have exceeded my title. Can we explore adjusting my role or title to reflect the work I am actually doing?”
Response: “Your performance needs improvement”
Script 1: Seeking Specifics
“I appreciate that feedback. Can you help me understand specifically what areas need improvement? I want to make sure I have clear targets so we can revisit this conversation once I have addressed them.”
Script 2: If Surprised
“I have to be honest—this is different from the feedback I have received before. Can we schedule a follow-up to discuss specific expectations? I want to make sure I am aligned on what success looks like.”
Response: “This is not the right time”
Script 1: Setting Timeline
“When would be the right time? I want to plan accordingly and make sure I am prepared for that conversation.”
Script 2: Understanding Why
“Can you help me understand what factors make the timing difficult? I want to be thoughtful about when to bring this up again.”
Response: “Let me think about it”
Script 1: Pinning Down Timeline
“Of course, I understand. When can I expect to hear back? I would like to have a sense of the timeline so I can plan accordingly.”
Script 2: Offering Follow-Up
“That makes sense. Should we schedule a follow-up meeting for next week? I am happy to provide any additional information that would be helpful for your consideration.”
Response: “I need to check with HR/my boss”
Script 1: Showing Flexibility
“I understand there is a process. Is there anything I can provide to help make the case? I have documented my accomplishments and market research and am happy to share that information.”
Script 2: Setting Timeline
“That makes sense. When do you think you will have an answer? I would like to schedule a follow-up so we can close the loop.”
Counter-Offer Scripts
When They Offer Less Than You Asked
Script 1: Standard Counter
“I appreciate the offer of [X]. Based on the value I bring and the market data I have researched, I was hoping to get closer to [Y]. Is there room to meet in the middle at [specific number]?”
Script 2: Asking for More Information
“Thank you for that offer. Can you help me understand how you arrived at that number? I want to make sure I understand the framework so I can address any concerns.”
Script 3: Alternative Request
“If [higher salary] is not possible, could we make up the difference with [bonus/equity/PTO]? I want to find a path that works for both of us.”
When the Offer Is Far Below Your Request
“I appreciate you coming back with a number. Honestly, [X] is significantly below what I was hoping for based on my research and contributions. I am looking for something in the range of [Y]. If we cannot get there, I would like to understand what path exists to reach that level, and by when.”
Closing the Conversation
When You Get What You Wanted
“Thank you—I really appreciate your support on this. I am committed to continuing to deliver results, and this recognition means a lot. Can you send me the details in writing so I can confirm everything is in place?”
When You Got a Partial Win
“I appreciate you working with me on this. While it is not quite what I was hoping for, I understand the constraints. Can we plan to revisit this in [timeframe] to discuss further progress? I would like to have a clear path forward.”
When You Got Nothing
“I am disappointed, but I appreciate your honesty about the situation. To make sure I am clear: what specifically would I need to accomplish to revisit this conversation, and when? I want to have a concrete plan to work toward.”
When You Need to Leave
“Thank you for this conversation. I am going to take some time to think about my options. I appreciate everything I have learned here, and I will follow up with you soon.”
Email Follow-Up Templates
After a Successful Meeting
Subject: Thank You - Compensation Discussion
Hi [Manager],
Thank you for taking the time to discuss my compensation today. I appreciate your support in adjusting my salary to [new amount], effective [date].
I am energized about continuing to contribute to the team and will keep delivering the results that made this possible.
Best, [Your name]
After Getting a “We will get back to you”
Subject: Following Up: Compensation Discussion
Hi [Manager],
Thank you again for our conversation on [date] about my compensation. I wanted to follow up and see if there are any updates or additional information I can provide to support the decision.
I remain enthusiastic about growing here and look forward to hearing next steps.
Best, [Your name]
After Getting a “No”
Subject: Follow-Up and Path Forward
Hi [Manager],
Thank you for discussing compensation with me last week. While I was hoping for a different outcome, I appreciate your transparency.
As we discussed, I would like to set clear goals for the next [3-6 months] so we can revisit this conversation. Can we schedule a brief check-in to align on specific targets?
Thank you, [Your name]
Quick Reference: Phrases That Work
Power Phrases
| Situation | What to Say |
|---|---|
| Starting | “I would like to discuss my compensation.” |
| Presenting value | “My contributions have resulted in [specific outcome].” |
| Making the ask | “I am requesting an increase to [specific number].” |
| Handling pushback | “What would it take to make this possible?” |
| Getting timeline | “When can we revisit this conversation?” |
| Closing | “Can I get this in writing?” |
Phrases to Avoid
| Instead of | Say |
|---|---|
| “I think I deserve…” | “Based on my contributions…” |
| “I need more money because…” | “My value to the company includes…” |
| “Everyone else makes more” | “Market data shows…” |
| “I will have to quit” | “I want to grow my career here” |
| “Sorry to ask, but…” | “I would like to discuss…” |
Bottom Line
| Key | Point |
|---|---|
| Have scripts ready | Reduces anxiety and improves clarity |
| Practice out loud | Builds confidence |
| Know your follow-ups | Be ready for any response |
| Get everything in writing | Confirmation protects you |
Save these scripts and adapt them to your situation. The words matter less than being prepared.